Why I Stopped Reading Your Blog?

May 24, 2015

My blog reading habits have changed, just as my book reading habits have. In 2013 I was reading books like “A history of the word in 100 objects” and “The biggest estate on earth – How Aborigines made Australia” for leisure. In 2014, the titles have included “The good mother myth”, “Organising your home and family” and “There’s a green monkey in my purse.” The type of information I need has changed. The change in my reading habits has resulted partly because of my lifestyle changes. And these reading changes have extended to the blogs I read and engage with. There were many blogs I read with interest a few times a week, I engaged with the writers and shared their content. I no longer to do this, it’s not a personal affront to these writers in any way. There are many reasons why I’ve stopped reading (and/or commenting on) many blogs, and I thought it might be insightful to share them.

I no longer read some blogs because: 

The balance between supporting friends that blog and nurturing and feeding my own desire to learn and grow became difficult. I tried so hard to engage and show my support for my friends who blog, regardless of what their blog might be like, but with more and more people deciding to start blogs this is becoming difficult to sustain.

My interests and needs have changed. Perhaps they haven’t entirely changed but the quantity of information I want to absorb about a particular subject may have decreased. I don’t want to read about fashion as much, nor do I want to engage with outfit posts. On the other hand, I do want to read more lifestyle posts.

Your interests have changed and you now blog about different things. There are a number of blogs that I loved reading, but the writers have decided to follow another path, one that does not currently coincide with the one that I’m on. Perhaps we will meet again later on? After all our needs and interests are always changing.

We just don’t connect any more. This could be the result of changes in our lifestyle or we’ve grown out of our blog friendship, and this is okay. I’m comfortable with this. It shows growth in my opinion. We’ve learnt as much as we can from each other, we supported and engaged with each other. We might still be in touch, and might help each other find other blogs and people that can further inspire us.

The blogger doesn’t engage with the reader beyond writing the post. There are blogs where the blogger writes the most engaging and thoughtful posts but then does not engage with their readers. By engagement I mean replying to comments/questions, reading/commenting on your blog (though not necessarily), and engaging on social media. I want to feel like you care, or at least appreciate that I took the time to read and engage with you and your content.

I have nothing to contribute. Sometimes I simply cannot contribute to the topics being discussed on a blog. There’s a blog that I like to read every now and then and I’ve had the pleasure of meeting the blogger behind it on a number of occasions. She’s lovely and she’s funny. Her posts are humorous and full of sarcasm – but I simply feel like I’m not funny enough to contribute anything (in terms of leaving comments). Posts about dieting and weight loss (for example) – I might congratulate the blogger, but honestly, I have nothing to add, and it’s not a topic I’m looking for information on, so slowly I pull away.

Their motives and philosophies aren’t clear. I’m really keen to know, from the beginning, why you’re blogging and what you hope your blog offers for potential readers.

I had a longer list of reasons but these encompass some of the main reasons I have stopped reading some blogs. I’ve had friendships develop from blog relationships, and while I may remain close to those bloggers, I don’t necessarily read their blogs as closely. It’s simply a matter of needs and interests changing mostly, and I don’t take it too personally or seriously when I lose a few readers.

Are there any blogs that you’ve stopped reading? Why did you stop?  How do you feel when you notice that someone has stopped reading or actively engaging with your blog? 

19 comments

  • Rhiannon

    There are a few blogs I've stopped reading when I wasn't interested in the path they were taking. Time is also a huge factor, I am busier these days than I ever have been so I don't have a lot of time to read all the blogs I used to.

    • vanisha.mishravakaoti@gmail.com

      Definitely – I used to put chunks of time aside just to read and comment on blogs, 30 mins here and there but I'm finding it difficult especially because I tend to interact a lot with different bloggers etc on social media. And when I do find time to comment I'll be stuck on one blog for ages because I'll keep reading all the posts I feel I've missed, then the blogger probably thinks I'm spamming them with all my comments.

      • Ann Krembs

        Hahha! That’s what I’m doing here Vanisha. I missed out on a ton of your posts in the last week! Granted I’ve been crazy and haven’t been able to do much extra blog reading. I’m having fun catching up here for sure! (Oh! I don’t feel stuck though and yes, I’ll be the one spamming your right now as I catch up;) A x

    • Rhiannon

      I'm like that too – don't want the blogger to think I am spamming them! Although, I think a lot of the time they just appreciate the interaction.

  • Sanch LivingLife

    Agree with you on all levels Vanisha — we all grow and change and what we read and who we follow reflects that.

    I think lately I'm guilty of not engaging much with my readers and I hate that! I'm still trying to work out a balance across all areas!

  • Mother Down Under

    I don't mind when someone stops engaging…as I know I have done the same on blogs.
    I agree that it could be a number of reasons. But I suppose I figure whatever I am writing about no longer resonates with that person. And that is fine.
    I am slow to give up blogs…I guess I consider them like old friends. It takes me a while to stop reading the ones I have grown particularly attached to.

  • Connie

    We all grow and develop in different ways. No one should ever feel guilty for not reading some blogs anymore. I have some blogs where I skip some post, because they aren't much of my interest, and then there are posts I like to read.

  • Cee

    This is such an interesting topic, Vanisha. I think I more often stop engaging than stop reading – frequently because I have little to contribute. But the decision to stop reading, for me, is an extremely difficult one; I'm a very loyal person and even if I have little to contribute to a discussion, in life I continue to listen and in blogging, I continue to read. With that said, every blog is personal and for myself, the process of accepting that someone has chosen to stop reading and/or engaging has been more challenging to accept. But at the end of the day, I know my own limitations in terms of how much engagement I can offer now that my blog is not my full time occupation and I'm learning to recognise that, with so many blogs out there, others are faced with those same limitations.
    xox,
    Cee

  • Orianne W

    Hello Vanisha, you was my first follower, and I was very happy, but I quite agree, we all grow and develop in different ways.

    xoxo

    Orianne

  • Kayleigh thewayiwanderlust

    We all grow and change, I think everyone understands that sometimes we just grow apart depending on what we need from others at that point and time in our lives.

  • Elsie and Joan

    I appreciate your honesty, Vanisha. I agree – as in life – we grow and change. Sometimes down the same path and sometimes in different directions. I think that is perfectly natural. Your point about engaging beyond the blog post in particular resonated with me. I'm guilty of that. I have found myself so busy this year that it's just about all I can do to get a post published, let alone constantly checking back to respond to comments. But I think that you make a good point and I'm going to try harder at this. Hope you're well! Belinda x

  • Rita

    This is a really good list and encompasses pretty much how I've felt towards my blog reading habits. Truth is, life is this journey where we meet different people along the way. Sometimes we remain together in the same path for a long time, sometimes for a short time. But that doesn't mean we won't appreciate these different meetings any less.

  • Kristian

    I really enjoyed this post, partly because this all seems very true for me too. I used to really want to support friends' blogging (and still do) but it is hard to keep up , and that had to change. I'll still read and comment but no longer feel quite the same…duty about it. And likewise, the interacting makes a huge difference in how soon and easily I'll decide to stop reading a blog. If they never interact with me… there's not a relationship, and I'd rather spend the online energy on someone with an interest in that. And if a blog becomes all very about giveaways and paid content exclusively, that's the other things that will send me running.

  • Melanie

    Thanks Vanisha this was so useful to help think more about keeping up with people we want to, and managing the mass of information that is around.
    I discovered a couple of weeks ago that approximately 2.5 million blog posts are published every day!!!! It feels like even when you find great people and great information you can't keep up with it all.
    As bloggers there is the struggle to find that balance of wanting to reciprocate and communicate but trying not to become overloaded. No easy answer but your thoughts are very helpful.
    Melanie

  • Chocolate Cookies & Candies

    I think most of us suffer from online fatigue. Also, life, family and work got in the way. But I think most of those reasons you've stated apply too. I haven't commented as much as I simply don't have anything intelligent to contribute and some bloggers have become friends. We meet and catch up every now and then but that's the beauty of blogging. We're constantly evolving.

  • Rachel // Nourish

    Well said Vanisha, I completely agree with your thoughts here. I've been blogging for 4 years and over that time I have definitely evolved and so have the blogs I read. I used to read and consume a lot more fashion, style and decor blogs but I rarely read these anymore. It's nothing personally against the blog or the blogger – just a matter of I don't feel this information or content is having a positive effect nor is it anything I can relate to these days…. xx

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  • Ann Krembs

    Here’s my very quick question Vanisha: how do you keep track of the blogs that you do read. You refer to “following” blogs. Do you have a system, or are you like me? I have my favorites, I begin their blog name in my Chrome url space, and it instantly remembers them and I push enter. I check in daily to every other day to a top five I’d say. Sometimes I’ll be like, Oh ya, what’s Jessica (What I Wore) been up to these days. I’m just curious about how you follow.

    Thanks!

    Ann from Kremb de la Kremb

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