How We Found Out

September 28, 2015

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It’s been a week since we shared our news on Instagram and we couldn’t be more humbled or appreciative of all the love and support. Many friends and family members expressed surprise – of course they would – we were surprised. After being told three years ago that I wouldn’t be able to conceive naturally and that if I did it would be risky for both myself and the baby Patrick and I made peace with life and moved on. It was devastating but we’ve always been aware of how lucky we are. In our personal lives, our relationship and our career. It hasn’t always been easy and we’ve had our challenges but we’ve come out of them so much stronger and happier – even if they made us sad or angry at the time.

Friends have asked if we were ‘trying’. I find this hard to answer. I mean we’ve always had an incredibly intimate relationship but we weren’t like okay the time’s right let’s go. I’ve never been able to figure out the right time because my cycles have always been all over the place. We really had moved on and made plans that didn’t involve a child – with the exception of Miss 11.

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We had returned from a lovely holiday in Fiji in June where our friends the Kama’s from Kama Catch Me Photography took these incredible family photos for us. It was the weekend we were back that things happened. Four weeks later I would say to anyone who would listen “I have all the symptoms of being pregnant but I know I’m not pregnant”. My periods had always been irregular so it was pointless looking at that as a marker, besides I had no idea when I had my last one. I’ve never kept tabs on these things. I had started a rigorous abs and squat exercise routine with the goals of being the fittest I’ve ever been by my 30th birthday (next July). My appetite was insatiable. And my breasts looked the best they’d ever looked.

Coincidentally around this time we had met some parents who have children who suffer from Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD). Another evening we were at a public lecture where a paediatrician was talking about FASD. He mentioned how a mother’s body is able to get rid of the alcohol but that the fetus/baby cannot. Patrick and I talked about it most of the evening in relation to young girls who have no idea they’re pregnant and continue binge drinking (part of what the lecture covered). I don’t binge drink and looking back I think since returning from Fiji until the point we found out  I might have had 3 glasses of alcohol over a month and a bit.

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Patrick and I had picked up a couple of bottles of cider and he was getting dinner ready. I remember I was in our bedroom thinking about how hungry I was and all these changes and how I  really couldn’t wait to get into that cider. Then I started remembering all the FASD discussions we’d been part of. I started to worry. I knew I had a pregnancy test left from the beginning of the year when my period was soooo late I was terrified. Funny enough at that point I was scared. I didn’t want to be pregnant. I’m not sure why, perhaps we had come so far and our lives were pretty perfect as it was. I wasn’t pregnant then.

I pulled out the test and headed to the bathroom. Patrick had no idea what I was doing or thinking. I had told my sister that weekend that I’d do a test after Patrick’s birthday in August if I didn’t get my period. So I did the test and waited and then I walked briskly out to Patrick and said can you come with me. He looked worried. He came into the bathroom and I asked, how many lines do you see? “Two” and looks at me like can’t you count? Before he realised what he was looking at. The way I felt earlier in the year vanished. I was happy. I was scared about what the doctors told me but I was excited. I messaged my sister straight away and then we sat down to dinner. There was a bottle of cider in front of me. I couldn’t stop smiling and pushed it over to Patrick.

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Miss 11 looked at me puzzled. “What’s going on?”, “What you do mean?” (still smiling so much it hurt), “You look so happy!” We asked her if she could keep a secret and that it would be family talk (our family, as in the three of us) and that she wouldn’t be able to say anything to her parents for a while. She promised. So we told her, I said we had a long way to go to confirm the test. She beamed and in a single breath said “Congratulations! I’m so happy. But I’m not going anywhere!” It was the cutest thing ever.

The next morning Patrick and Miss 11 went to the supermarket to get me another test – you know, just to make sure! This one too came out positive. I went to the doctors and got my bloods taken. The next day the results came in confirming that I was indeed pregnant, with the HCG levels putting me at about 6 weeks. It was time to book the ultrasound. Miss 11 left school early that day and we all went to the appointment together. As soon as the image came up on the screen I noticed the heartbeat straight away! There it was. It took Patrick and Miss 11 a couple of moments to figure out what was what. We were told before the ultrasound not to be too surprised if we couldn’t see a heartbeat but there it was and so the journey began…

16 comments

  • Sarah from Creating Contentment

    amazing amazing amazing!!!! Congratulations mama.

    • Vanisha

      Thanks Sarah. It’s been beautiful watching your latest journey with your lovely baby on Instagram. Congratulations again to you x

  • Ronil Prasad

    Many congratulations, V.

  • Jojiana

    Dear Vanisha ,

    I am absolutely thrilled for you. I saw your instagram post rather late but I remember being surprised. I remember you briefly sharing to me that you couldn’t have a baby and the struggles you have been through with that . In this blog you’ve really captured the struggles and joys of trying and expecting. I am just so happy for you and I know you will make an absolutely fabulous yummy mummy. 🙂

    Congratulations my friend.

    Love and blessings,
    Jojiana

    • Vanisha

      Dear Jojiana, Thank you! Yes, I was quite open about the infertility so it feels really nice to finally be able to share this news with everyone. I hope you’re enjoying life after the ANU. My time there was one of the most precious times of my life. We look forward to seeing you soon. Lolomas x

  • Preetina

    This was such a beautiful read! Miss 11’s response was tooooo cute! Congratulations again xx

  • Marina

    I just can’t believe the timing. I’ve been following your blog for many years now. I don’t remember now how I came across it but there were so many things in that I could relate myself to that I became a regular reader back in the times when your lived in Australia. When you posted “I Want a Baby” I had also been struggling with infertility for some years so I found yet another point of connection with your lovely blog although we are so far away. This year after struggling for 7 years, my husband (who’s also a University Professor) and I found out I was pregnant 🙂
    I loved reading Miss 11’s reaction about the news because she’s still too young to understand that she’s been such an important part of the healing process. Of course she shouldn’t go anywhere! She’ll make the sweetest sister ever. Congrats then to you and to Patrick in NZ and to us in Argentina as we’ve all been blessed with these tiny heartbeats full of promises.

    • Vanisha

      Dearest Marina,

      This is such wonderful news! Congratulations to you and your husband! The struggles definitely make it sweeter. It appears to have been quite a journey for both of us and I look forward to us having happy and healthy pregnancies! Are you on Instagram? I tend to spend a lot of time there and would love to connect with you on there if you are. Much love, besos, Vanisha x

  • Kristian

    Oh! Congratulations! I am so glad this was able to be for you guys!

  • Vashnie

    I have never been so happy for someone I have never met or even know, than I was for you when I first read about your great news. Congratulations 🙂

    • Vanisha

      Dear Vashnie, that is so incredibly kind and I truly appreciate it. I hope you’ve been well. Sending you warm wishes and positive vibes x

  • Nadeena

    If you were here I’d squish hug you so hard. I’m so happy for you, truly. ❤️

    • Vanisha

      Thanks Nadeena! I wish we could catch up over drinks and talk about photography, business, life and Instagram – among other things! x

  • Trish

    Oh V… just read this and I’m in tears again (even though it’s not new news to me anymore). You’re such a good storyteller and it’s such a beautiful story to tell. Much love! <3

    • Vanisha

      Thanks Trish! I was worried people would get sick of hearing about me being pregnant! I’ve been so careful to spread it out a bit. Thank you my dear friend for always being there. I can’t wait to spend some time with you again x

  • theodora

    Just amazing, I speechless for I’m so so happy! COngratulations

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